Behind every frustration is a wish in disguise. The purpose of this dialogue is to turn your frustrations into requests, asking for things from your partner that will meet your unmet needs from childhood.
Find the Change Request Dialogue tool on p. 14 in the Couples Toolbox.
When you have a copy for each of you, follow the instructions in the video below.
NOW YOU TRY IT: Following the Change Request Dialogue sheet, take turns practicing it. Go all the way through MIRRORING, (Summary), VALIDATION, and EMPATHY. Then tell your partner, “One thing that would help me next time is…” And turn your frustration into a request.
Often this process provides healing for you and an opportunity for growth for your partner.
When you’re finished…
Mark Complete and proceed to Next Topic.